Friday, July 16, 2010

Many gay couples negotiate open relationships

We have always known that legalizing homosexual "marriage" would do more than just allow homosexuals to marry. It would completely redefine marriage.

A new study of 566 gay couples in the San Francisco area reveals that HIV prevention should include gay men in so-called committed, long term relationships because most of them have agreed that it's healthy, and good for the relationship, to have sex on the side.

Now you know the real meaning behind the phrase "two loving individuals in a long term, committed relationship."

San Francisco Chronicle
Merridith May
July 16, 2010
They call them "San Francisco relationships."

"A term coined by the local gay community, it's defined as two men in a long-term open relationship, with lovers on the side.

A new study released this week by the Center for Research on Gender & Sexuality at San Francisco State University put statistics around what gay men already know: Many Bay Area boyfriends negotiate open relationships that allow for sex with outsiders.

After studying the sexual patterns of 566 gay male couples from the Bay Area for three years, lead researcher Colleen Hoff found that gay men negotiate ground rules and open their relationships as a way to build trust and longevity in their partnerships.

"I don't own my lover, and I don't own his body," he said. "I think it's weird to ask someone you love to give up that part of their life. I would never do it."

"So much of the HIV prevention effort is aimed at a different set - men in dance clubs or bathhouses having anonymous sex," she said. "HIV prevention might want to expand its message to address relationships; we have to look at risk in a greater context."

In her study of gay couples, 47 percent reported open relationships. Forty-five percent were monogamous, and the remaining 8 percent disagreed about what they were."



Minnesota Family Council said...

Mom, this study shows that HIV infections are on the rise in part because gay men in long term committed relationships have agreed to have protected sex with multiple partners.

Disease is immune to ideology and spreads itself with equal opportunity.

Herb said...

I found a very interesting post on your facebook, I thought i would copy it here.

Jocelyn Warren, MPH, PhD , Department of Public Health, Oregon State University, Corvallis, OR
S. Marie Harvey, MPH, DrPH , Department of Public Health, Oregon State University, Corvallis, OR
Christopher R. Agnew, PhD , Department of Psychological Sciences, Purdue University, West Lafayette, IN
High-risk heterosexual contact accounted for over a... See More third of all new HIV infections in the United States in 2006 and 80% of new infections among women. Among the strategies promoted for HIV prevention among couples are condom use and mutual monogamy. Research suggests that condom use is more likely with new or casual partners and tends to decline as relationships become more intimate and steady over time. Little is known, however, about mutual monogamy agreements within heterosexual couples. This study uses data collected from 435 heterosexual couples at increased risk of HIV/STIs recruited from Los Angeles and Oklahoma for the PARTNERS project, a couples-based HIV intervention. Women were eligible if they were aged 18-25, had a male sex partner over age 18 willing to participate, and met at least one HIV risk criteria. Women in Los Angeles had to self-identify as Latina. Data are from the individual baseline interviews. In this study we examine the frequency of agreements about monogamy and condom use in the event that monogamy fails. We also assess interpartner concordance in monogamy perceptions. Finally, we examine whether individual and relationship factors predict couple fidelity to a monogamy agreement. Preliminary analyses indicated that 70% of individuals reported they had a clear agreement with their partner to be monogamous. Interpartner concordance, however, was only moderate, with over a third of couples having discordant perceptions of a monogamy agreement. 70% minus the 1/3 discordance figures reflects a 46% monogamy rate, same as their gay male counterparts.