"Daddy, how many sex partners should I have?"
Apparently a majority of our state legislators think the answer should be, "as many as you like, but fewer is better, as long as you use ‘protection’ – none is safest, but we really don’t think you are capable of saying ‘No.’" That essentially is what they want to require schools throughout the state to teach children in grades 7 through 12.
Thanks to years of sex education with that convoluted message, the Center for Disease Control recently reported that one in four teenage girls are infected with a sexually transmitted disease (STD) – nearly 50% for African American girls.
One might ask, "How do we stop this epidemic?"
The answer, say comprehensive sex ed advocates, is mandatory comprehensive sex education that encourages children to engage in unhealthy sexual behaviors, giving them the illusion that using condoms makes it safe. In other words, mandating more of what has already produced alarming rates of STD’s among teens. Bills currently before the legislature, like SF 3349, deceptively named "Responsible Family Life and Sexuality Education Programs" promote condoms, dental dams and contraceptive use while encouraging acceptance of alternative sexual lifestyles and unhealthy behaviors such as anal sex and anal-oral sex.
How does that make you feel about your child or grandchild’s chances of avoiding infection?
That uneasy feeling in your gut is telling you that our sex education programs are not working. The reason, in this author’s humble opinion, is because they are driven by an unhealthy ideology. Sadly, however, most sex education advocates and parents are in denial that the ideology exists, allowing it to stalk the unprotected values of yet another generation.
We are still steeped in the ideology of the sexual revolution. It’s a cognitive STD.
When abortion rates go up, the tendency among many educators is to blame teaching abstinence. When a report shows a rise in STIs and STDs like Chlamydia, blame abstinence. An ideology that denies the notion of personal responsibility seeks to enable risky behavior with an illusion of safety. Rather than changing behavior, it attempts to remove consequence with condoms, dental dams, pills, vaccines and abortions.
Denial is a powerful mental defense mechanism that in this case obscures the failure of a sexual revolution that swapped abstinence-based values for the more enlightened partner of free sex. And now our kids are paying the price.
Denial is easy to identify if you’re not caught in its blissful delusion. Look for it every time you hear phrases like "facts based" or "technically accurate information" vs. "ideology founded on fear and misinformation." We should also look for it in the mirror.
A recent University of Minnesota poll revealed that 89 percent of parents polled favored a comprehensive approach to sex education versus 10 percent who favored an abstinence-based curriculum. 81 percent of the parents polled also agreed that taking a sex education class doesn’t make children more likely to engage in sex. Polls like these expose our desperate need for intervention. It shows that the majority are not aware of the specifics of what’s being taught to our children, or the documented consequences.
According to a review of comprehensive sex guidelines established by the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States, masturbation, sexual intercourse, cohabitation, oral and anal sex, and homosexuality are recommended as part of the curriculum.
We can no longer deny the results of a failed ideology, laid bare by a growing body of facts that proves the folly of reckless sexual behavior. We need to accept responsibility and stop deceiving ourselves into believing that what educators term a "comprehensive" approach, can be an effective surrogate for values taught at home and re-reinforced at school.
To the contrary, Brigid Riley, the executive director of the Minnesota Organization of Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention and Parenting (MOAPPP), is at the Capitol lobbying legislators to mandate "comprehensive" sex education. Riley, the consummate enabler, assures them that "Comprehensive sexuality education actually encourages young people to wait longer to start being sexually active," and goes on to say, "When they do become sexually active they’re more likely to use contraceptives and condoms. And they have fewer partners."
The facts don’t support the claims of the enablers. With 1 in 4 teen girls infected with STDs and teen pregnancy continuing to rise, the failure of the current sex-ed curriculum is obvious. Do you see the ideology? Can you hear the denial?
If not, then perhaps it time to look in the mirror and imagine your child asking you, "Mommy and Daddy, how many sex partners should I have?"